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A Salmon Arm man who raped his girlfriend on two occasions has been sentenced to two years jail.

According to a recently published Feb. 27 Supreme Court of BC decision, the man referred to as J.O.B.-Q. in the document also poured coffee on her and head butted her.

The abuse took place between 2019 and 2020 he was 24 and 25 years old.

The decision said the couple met on a dating app and had a "volatile" relationship. He was jealous of her communicating with other men.

On one occasion he poured hot coffee on her, which luckily didn't burn her. On other occasions, he head-butted her, threw a wooden box at her, and spit in her face.

"(She) testified that Mr. B. was out of control emotionally in the latter stages of that event as he was punching himself in the face over and over while crying, sobbing and begging her not to leave," the decision reads.

In January 2020, he tried to initiate sex but she refused. He then pinned her to the bed and raped her.

Almost a year later he raped her again when she was sleeping.

He was later charged with two counts of sexual assault and three counts of assault.

The decision says the girlfriend was left with "layers of trauma."

She didn't submit a victim impact statement to the court because it was too traumatic for her.

"She has been left feeling angry and frustrated," Supreme Court Justice Murray Blok said in the decision. "She is unable to forgive him."

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The decision says J.O.B.-Q., now 28 years old, grew up in Fort McMurray in an abusive home.

"Mr. B.'s early home life was marked by domestic violence, as his father was physically violent towards his mother and he was verbally belittling and abusive to Mr. B," the justice said.

He describes his father as "abusive, judgmental, and manipulative."

"He admits his father suffered his own abuse but he says his father's negligence and abuse are large factors that have impacted the person he has become," the decision reads.

He began using hard drugs at 15 and had smoked marijuana every day since he was a teenager. He quit school before the end of Grade 10. At 22 years old he was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety.

The girlfriend says that while she recognizes that he suffers from his own historical trauma, it doesn't give him the right to do what he did to her.

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After sentencing  J.O.B.-Q. to two years in jail the justice had some words for him.

"I have hopes for you. I think you have the capacity to be rehabilitated. I think you are smarter than your grade level shows. You should finish school and maybe learn a trade or profession," the justice said.

"Most of all, you are going to have to come to some inner understanding and acknowledgment about how and why, as a person who was verbally abused and belittled yourself and witnessed domestic violence within your home, you could have mentally and physically abused someone else in such a terrible way. You can either break that cycle or you can make it worse by passing it on to yet another generation."

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